Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Valentines Treat & How I Met My Man

Doesn't this look yummy? I'm actually planning ahead this year and am going to make this delectible dessert for my man for Valentines Day. He loves chocolate, so this will be a winner, I'm quite sure. And it looks so pretty too. I'm going to take a shortcut on the swirled heart on top with something store bought, but the recipe actually shows how to make those too. And, I already have a heart-shaped pan that came with my Pampered Chef cheesecake pan, so I'm ready to go. So, in case you were wondering what to do for your sweetie for Valentines, here's your chance to impress & make him swoon with delight. Chocolate cake always gets my man! You know they say that the way to a man's heart is through his tummy...well, I think that's absolutely true.
Here's the recipe, I scanned it for you, so click to open it and copy from here. This is from the February '08 Country Home magazine. (me and my honey in May, '05, Seaside, FL just before we got married in June)

On a related note, I've been tagged by Judy at Gracious Southern Living, Steph at It's Toile, Ya'll, and Fran at Frannycakes, to share how I met my hubby. So, it's pretty short and sweet and not all that exciting, but I'll tell you just how it all came about.

After a 9 year marriage in Atlanta, I had just gone through a long 2 year separation and very painful divorce in 2004. After my divorce, I had started doing some dating online. That's the new way of dating in case you haven't heard and that seemed to be a good way to meet men without having to go out to places I did not want to go to meet them. I only wanted to date a solid Christian man. Online dating has really gained in popularity over the last few years and since I was older, it seemed to be the best way to ease back into the dating scene again. And let me just say, I really don't like the dating process at all. It's tedious, deflating, and just plain not fun most of the time. I've always just wanted to be settled down with one man, my man and not have to go through all the dating games. I didn't get married at all until my 30's, so I had plenty of years of dating behind me. I wasn't particularly looking forward to more. Although it was fun at first and I went out with a lot of guys while online dating, I quickly grew tired of the dating scene.

I met my husband, Peter on a Christian online dating service called Christian Cafe, in September of 2004. He had lost his wife of 23 years to cancer only 3 years before, so we both had been through some very painful times and were both emotionally bruised. We started dating pretty exclusively. He wined and dined me, wooing me until I fell for him! We allowed love to grow and and as we went forward, we made the mistake of trying to rush things too fast as far as getting married too quickly and we went through some very tough times with all of that in the beginning months of our relationship. But we got past it all and continued to date and get to know each other better and decided on June of 2005 for our wedding. It was still pretty fast, but we are going on 3 years of marriage now. It hasn't been without its ups and downs. Blended familes and marrying when you are older presents a lot more challenges than when you are young, in love, and doing it all for the first time, so no rose-colored glasses for us. You have to see each other in reality and not a fantasy world.

My hubby is very smart, ambitious, hard-working and fun to be around. He keeps up daily with finance, politics, and religion and I can be sure he will keep me informed on the important things that are happening around the world, since I'm usually caught up in more mundane things like decorating. We are completely opposite in so many ways, but I love him dearly and we are looking forward to spending the rest of our years together here on this earth. He's good to me and allows me to spread my wings and strive to be the person that I was meant to be. He encourages me, challenges me, and accepts me, with my good and bad traits and I do the same for him. Our life has not been perfect along the way, but we have each other to lean on and that is very comforting. He's a devoted Christian man and it's always his heart's desire that Biblical truth be told and I admire him for that. He will never be accused of being a wimp.

So, that's our story about me and my Valentine! Can't wait to see his face when he sees his heart-shaped cake.

Head on over to Garden Goose for a Valentine's Day giveaway. Be sure to tell her I sent you.

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Fran said...

Thanks Rhoda! I am so glad you found each other. It is always interesting to see how couples meet.

My husband and I so different. But we balance each other out. And at the end of the day, we love each other. Who could ask for anything more?


Maureen said...
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Maureen said...

Hi Rhoda- Having known you for a few years now I am well familiar with your story, but very much enjoyed reading your words. It's evident you and Peter have learned the key points to a good marriage and that you are happy! My Mom would make a heart-shaped cake each Valentine's Day, but in those days, no heart-shaped pans, so she'd use this trick- cut a round layer cake in half, then piece the halves to alternate sides of a square cake layer of the same size that has been placed on-point, then frost. Fond memories of those cakes

Judy said...

Rhoda: I can't wait for us to meet face-to-face and have a nice long visit. We have so much in common, from our decorating to our marriages...David and I have had our ups and downs in our marriage as well (older, more set in our ways, etc)but I know for a fact that he was sent by God to me (my mom said she "prayed him up") and you can't do better than a mama's prayers! We are going on our trip in about two weeks and after we get back and the weather gets a little warmer, let's plan a get together. (BTW I have your two rolls of ribbon)!

Love ya - Judy

Janet said...

I truly believe that being accepted just the way you are is one of the best things about a good marriage. I was so excited to see this recipie! I was in a doctor's office yesterday waiting for my husband and was looking at this magazine. When I went to look at the recipie, someone had torn it out. So thanks for your thoughtful sharing. I love your blog!

Jen said...

Your story is very sweet and I am so glad tht you shared how you met your husband.
The chocolate cake looks absolutely delicious. Yes, I think you will definitely win you way to his heart!
Have a great week,

Michelle said...

Rhoda, Thanks for sharing your love was interesting to read and very heartwarming that you & your sweetheart found one another!

I can completely relate about being total opposites in many ways...but Bobby & I seem to balance each other out so well and I realize every day just how blessed I am by that man! God sure knew what He was doing when He brought us together! LOL

The cake looks delicious and I'm sure he's gonna love it :)

Happy Wednesday to you!


~Nancy~ said...

1. I am a southerner by birth and heart.
2. I made Feller a heart shaped chocolate cake for his January birthday when he came home last month. (He is working out of state)
3. I met him online.
4. We are "older".
5. I came out of a painful, 18 year marriage.
6. Feller has never been married.
7. We have been with each other almost 10 years.
8. We have yet to take the plunge. ;-)
9. He is a geeky, MBA, MD, brainiac.
10. I am a junker, decorator, day dreamer.

Are you my sister?


Jen r. said...

What a wonderful story... Thank you for sharing such a personal thing with us. My hubby and I have been together 13 years plus 3 kids and every day is anew thing with new challenges...I am so glad you guys found each other.
Jen R

DebraK from ~the Bunnies Bungalow~ said...

Oh Rhoda, what a great story. I'm so glad you shared it.
Please post pix of the cake & maybe the surprised look on your sweetie's face when he realizes it's for him.

The way to a man's heart .....
hugs, DebraK

PAT said...

I remember when you and Peter met, Rhoda. I can't believe it was over 4 years ago. It seems like yesterday! Neat reading your story, today.

The cake looks wonderful!


OldBagNewTricks said...

Scrumptious cake! Darling story. The two go beautifully together. Thanks for the recipe; I need to make that too.


Sher's Creative Expressions said...

Hi Rhoda, I'm trying to catch up on visting my blogging buddies. I've been behind because I've had so many other commitments lately.

So, I see the wonderful looking cake that Peter will receive for Valentine's Day. I'm sure he'll enjoy each and every bite of it!

I also enjoyed the "how I met my hubby" story. Thanks for sharing it.



joan said...


That is a great story and it sounds like you have found a good man. The cake looks good. Thanks for sharing.

A Romantic Porch said...

Cute post! Thanks for sharing!

carol eldridge said...

just found your blog..nice story about meeting your husband...I met mine in the 7th grade...just lucky I guess. I am a designer/artist who lives on the ocean near Boston. I create products for manufacturers, design artwork, paint, craft, garden and decorate. Have 3 beautiful daughters and 9 little munchkins...stop by and say hello sometime!

carol eldridge

Anonymous said...

Hmmm Thank you I am going to give it a try...I do not like yahoo online etc...I do not drink,smoke etc..I live like a nun! Hard to find a spiritual match! Help!

Candy :) said...

Lovely :)
Happy Valentines!

Sandi McBride said...

Lovely story Rhoda...thanks for me a sliver of that cake...

Rosemary said...

Hi Rhoda,
What a nice post!!
I loved hearing about you and your wonderful guy!!
I can't imagine trying to date after all that time.
Glad you found a great man!!
I'm sure he will love that yummy cake.

justabeachkat said...

Hi Rhoda! Bad me...I haven't been by in almost a week. It's been a wild, crazy and busy week for me, but things have calmed down and I've enjoyed getting to "catch up" on what you've been doing.

The cake looks yummy, but I'll have to pass since I've given up carbs for Lent. I know your hubby will be happy though. I enjoyed the tour of your beautiful den and of your friend Mary's house.


Ruth Welter said...

Rhoda, that cake looks incredible. Your husband will love it. It just looks to lovely to eat. LOL Have a wonderful day with him.

willzmom said...

That cake looks delish! I know your Valentine will love it. What a sweet story and a testament to not settling for someone, but looking for what you really wanted-a Christian man with values like your own. I hope that you'll have many, many valentine's days to celebrate together.

NAME: CIELO said...

You sound so romantic (and novelesque), when you say "my man" (lol). Sweet love story!

Happy Valentine Day to you, and Peter.


daisy cottage said...

It seems like JUST yesterday that you and Peter were married! I remember being so happy for you - thank you for sharing this story of your love with us. AND you make such a beautiful couple. May you have many, many, MANY more years together and may they all be blessed ones.


Sandi @the WhistleStop Cafe said...

Thank you for sharing that story... I know he must be a wonderful man. Because you are a wonderful woman!
Love the picture!

The Decorated House said...

Heeee...I already know this story. :) We sure had a lot of late night chats way back then. I'm happy for your new life. Birmingham sure has been a good place for you.

I am so craving chocolate cake now. And there is the best bakery down the street. LOL But I love to bake.

Classic Charm said...

Oh I had tears in my eyes...what a sweet post. There's a reason why I like you so much - ha!

BittersweetPunkin said...

Thats such a sweet story and I'm sure he'll love the cake!

Tara said...

what a great story and thanks for sharing it!

Cottage Contessa said...

Rhoda, this was a wonderful post! I loved reading about how you and Peter met. I'm sure he is going to LOVE that delicious looking cake too, and thank you for sharing the recipe! Have a wonderful weekend sweetie.
Amanda (aka Cottage Contessa)

Bonnie said...

Hi Rhoda........You & Peter make such a great couple- we loved meeting both of you when we were there. Boy time has gone fast !
Glad you two are still such sweethearts........that always make it easier ! Johnny & I are opposite in things too , but he is a big teddy bear sweetie also! Can't help but love him! He is my "man" as you say!


melissa @ the inspired room said...


What a great peek into your life and marriage! Sounds like you got yourself a great man and I know he got a wonderful woman!

Thanks for sharing!